Questions To Consider Before You Say "I Do"

A brother in Christ recently did a search on our website and noticed that there’s not a lot of content on finding a spouse, dating, or the qualities one needs before marriage. Last year, we had our first singles Bible study weekend, which was fantastic! Lord willing, we’re having another one in the summer.

You can find info on that event HERE

I want to begin doing some more blogging on some of these topics. Right now, I want to share some questions for singles who are considering marriage should be thinking about with the person they are dating and/or by themselves as they prepare for marriage. Marriage is a blessing from God, Genesis 2. Marriage is to be a life-long commitment! Therefore, it’s important to consider some questions and go back to God’s word before one says, “I Do!” I haven’t gone into detail about each question. There are some Bible passages for one to sit down and study on their own. Be sure that you begin with pray as you think about marriage.

Questions to consider

1. Do you both have the right to be married? Consider Matthew 5:32; Matthew 19:1-12; Luke 16:18; Mark 10:1-12; 1 Corinthians 7.

2. Do you both understand the lifelong commitment marriage is, Romans 7:2-3?

3. Do you both understand the one reason for divorce, Matthew 19:1-11?

4. How good are you two at forgiveness, Matthew 6:14-15? Is it challenging or easy to do? How was forgiveness shown in your home growing up?

5. Are you a morning person or a night owl?

6. Do you both understand marriage is a leaving of father and mother and a cleaving to one another? Genesis 2:22-25

7. What are your current Bible study habits? 2 Timothy 2:15; Acts 17:11

8. What are your current habits with prayer and meditation? Philippians 4:4-8

9. Have you two currently been studying together? What spiritual goals do you both have?

10. Where do you plan to place membership and worship?

11. Have there been discussions regarding children?

12. Are there any addictions that need to be shared between the two of you? (Drinking, drugs, porn, smoking, overspending, gambling, etc.). If so, what are your current plan of actions overcoming and being victorious in Christ?

13. How many bank accounts do you plan to have? Have you discussed money budgeting?

14. How do you two communicate? Passive? Aggressive? Blow up because you hold everything in?

15. Have you discussed any previous sexual interactions/experiences you’re bringing into the marriage that haven’t been discussed?

16. What part of your spiritual armor needs to be worked on, Ephesians 6:10-17?

17. What’s your game plan after you say “I do” to help keep passion alive between the two of you?